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Mary's avatar

I lost my parents in a car accident when I was 36 and they were 63 & 66. 25 years ago, and now I am almost 61, and I realize how much time I was cheated out of, and also we have my mother-in-law at 93 just down the street so ... I think living long but body giving out is just as hard, almost. I didn't have time to anticipate my parents' inevitable decline, but I was scared when I lost them. No matter what age you become an orphan, it's hard. But what would it be to hold them again and say goodbye?

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Cynthia Gelb's avatar

You and your mother remind me of me and my mother. My mom died in March at the age of 102 years and 7 months. Since she fell and broke her shoulder in 2020, my mom needed caregivers 24/7. As time went on, greater chunks of time were spent in bed and she eventually became fully dependent on caregivers. I made sure she remained in her own apartment. I’m so glad I was able to do that for her.

You are doing a fantastic world of good for your mother and yourself. How lucky she is to have you right there with her. Enjoy the time you have left to be together—be it months or years. I hope you remember to take care of yourself too. XO

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